The Big Deal About Forgiveness

Many of us find it difficult to forgive. We have been wronged in some way and we just can’t get past it. It lingers on our minds, and the mere mention of the wrongdoer’s name turns our stomachs. We have been wounded so deeply that we profess we will never forget it.

Guess what? No one is telling us to forget it. In certain situations, I don’t even think that’s even possible. But we are called to forgive and allow the God of Justice to be our vindication. This is not a new message. We’ve heard it hundreds of times from every pulpit and in every denomination and spiritual congregation on the planet, but how do we do it?

Well, we put on our big boy and big girl pants and we JUST DO IT. You don’t have to wear Nike to just do it. You simply choose to do it. Our lives are made up by the choices we make. When we choose to hold on to un-forgiveness, we give the person we’re harboring feelings about power over our lives. In turn, that un-forgiveness dictates how we feel, what we think, where we go (because we don’t want to be around that person), and even our health. Yes, our health. Un-forgiveness is toxic. It creates stress that compromises our immune system and makes us physically sick. That’s certainly not what God wants for us, which is why He made such a big deal about commanding forgiveness. He is so serious about this forgiveness thing that His own forgiving our transgressions is contingent on us forgiving others. “Forgive us our trespasses AS we forgive those who trespass against us.” (Matthew 6:12)

Knowing how much I mess up daily, I sure want (and need) God to forgive me. What about you? If you’re like me, do yourself a favor and forgive; even though it’s hard. Let’s be honest, anything worth having is hard! But the prize on the other side of forgiveness is peace. The beauty is, we don’t have to do it in our own power and strength alone; we can ask God to help us. And since He’s a huge proponent of us forgiving one another… He will! I hope you can take this word to heart today and meditate on what it can do in your life. From the bottom of my heart, I believe you will find delight in forgiveness. There’s no better time than now.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

The God of Suddenly

“And suddenly, there was a great earthquake.” Matt. 28:24

I am struck by how God can cause the earth to quake and suddenly change the trajectory of what is happening. In each biblical reference of an earthquake occurring, there appeared to be an impossible situation and things were final –lights out – and as my dad use to say, “that’s all she wrote.” And then we read, “but suddenly,” and everything changes. Time and again in scripture we read about men and women of faith who were facing death, famine, or some other life peril and then at 11:59 and counting, God shows up and suddenly alters the course of events and delivers. In many of the situations God sends an angel who emerges from a quake to guide, direct, and bring a message of hope and re-direct the course of events.

Unlike with other natural disasters, earthquakes come with no warning and they shake up life as you knew it. They rock the foundation you thought was secure and you’re left with destruction from which you must make decisions about.

I opened with talking about literal earthquakes, but an earthquake doesn’t have to be an external one. It can be any devastating event in our lives that suddenly alters how life is going. We commonly call it a crisis. Whether it’s the death of loved one, a divorce, a diagnosis that carries a bleak prognosis, or a wayward child, it rocks our foundation and alters the trajectory of the course we were on.

In those earthquake moments, it’s important to be open to God being in the midst. We can’t get stuck in the why. It will always be a dead end; and even if you knew the “why”, it wouldn’t change the situation. Replace the “why” with “what”. What is God trying to show me, do with me, say to me; and be open to the angels He sends to help you restore hope and re-build your life in a new way. 

Hebrews 13:2 states “Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for some who have done this have entertained angels without realizing it.” In that same passage of Hebrews, God promises that He will never leave us or forsake us, so however bleak the situation or how big the obstacle is you may be facing, remember God sees, hears, and says “I am with you.” Have faith, hold on, trust that God has not forsaken you, and expect to be amazed by what the God of suddenly will do.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

Let's Be Revolutionists

Did you ever stop to think about the fact that Jesus was a revolutionary man? Yes, He was a man of peace and love, but what made Him a revolutionist is that He didn’t just sit around waiting for change to happen; He became the change. Everywhere He went, He provoked change in what He said and the things He did. Did He piss people off? Of course He did! In fact, it got Him killed, but who hasn’t heard about Jesus? He is a revolutionist because He challenged the status quo with its legalistic laws and talked about a new law, the law of love.

Those of us who believe in Jesus say we love Him; but that love comes with a commandment and a commission to walk in love. Is it hard? You bet it is. There are some people in our lives whose actions make them hard to love; but Jesus promises that He will give you the grace to do it – actually, He already has. Perhaps you have been hurt and betrayed by people you trusted. You really don’t want to love because you’re hurt. Jesus has a remedy for that. He tells us to give our hurts to Him and He will “heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds.” Psalm 147:3

When we are able to give our brokenness to him and walk in a space of love, it enables us to see people and the world differently. It will enable you to be a difference maker. To accept this challenge, we have to be connected to our power source – Jesus. He is love; in order to see through the eyes of love we must connect to that which supplies it.

Our commission is to love God and love people. That means we think about something other than ourselves. I have come to accept that as human beings, we are all basically selfish; we’re born that way. But God is calling us to be revolutionists. He is calling us to “love our neighbors as ourselves,” which is not natural. We need God and the power of His love to do it; and when we do, things happen. Love changes the atmosphere and makes a difference. Let’s be like Jesus. Let’s be revolutionists and change the world.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

MAKES YOU WANNA HOLLER; THROW UP BOTH YOUR HANDS!

Sometimes you can find yourself in situations that are so toxic you can’t breathe or see your way out. You’re in the midst of a cesspool and you feel like you’re drowning. I often encounter people whose work environment is so stressful that it “makes you wanna holler, and throw up both your hands.” What do you do when you dread going to work; not because of the job itself, but because the people you work with or for, make it a toxic place to be?

We jokingly refer to people losing their composure in these types of environment and going “postal.” When you’re in those situations you find yourself understanding why it happened even though you don’t condone the action. You wonder, how long, Lord? How long will I have to put up with demanding, overbearing supervisors, rules and regulations that seem to change weekly, a workload that is far beyond 40 hours, and bureaucratic structures that seem more concerned about money than the people working for them.

How do you stay when you really want to go but you can’t just walk off the job because you have bills to pay?

The answer is not easy but it is necessary; you STOP, RE-GROUP, and PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST. Many years ago I use to sell Mary Kay Cosmetics and their company’s philosophy is God, family, and then a job. Wow. The bible tells us to “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all other things will be added unto you”. Matthew 6:33 Life demands our attention but we must meet the demands of life armed with the spiritual armor and food that enables us to stand and withstand the fiery darts life hurls our way. Just like we need food to sustain our physical bodies, we need God’s Word daily to anchor us in to the power that is able to keep us and carry us through the storms we will face on this journey we call life.

When you’re feeling overwhelmed, it’s important to stop and put things in perspective. Don’t look at the big picture; focus on what you can do TODAY.  Jesus taught us to pray “give us this day our daily bread.” Ask God to give you what you need to get through today. He’ll do it for you again tomorrow, and the next day, and the next day, if you ask. Remember God promised to be our helper, but we have to humble ourselves and surrender our will to His. Remember, this too will pass. The ancestors told us, “trouble don’t last always.”

When you’re feeling down, and you want to take off both your hands and throw them up in the air; put first things first and remember, God’s got you and this too will pass.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

“This Little Light of Mine, I’m Going to Let It Shine” – A Song for All Ages

As children most of us learned and sang the song “This Little Light of Mine”; but have you ever stopped to think about the deeper meaning of this song? On face value, we can conclude that the light that we’re professing to shine is Christ’s light in us, and that’s true; but I was recently challenged to dig deeper to embrace an even deeper meaning for us as adults. Matthew Kelly in his book “Resisting Happiness” has a chapter entitled “Let Your Light Shine”. He points out the fact that we were created to let our light shine, and he equates our light to the gift or gifts God packages in each of us. We all have gifts but we all don’t have the same gifts. God created each of us unique and special in our own way so that we will need each other. No one person is gifted or talented in everything. How brilliant of God to individualize us in such a way that no one person is any better or less than any other person. My friends and clients know that I have a gift of listening to people in pain and encouraging them. They are drawn to me, especially in times of trouble because of the gift. I am honored to share my gift with them, but they also know that if they need help with anything that has to do with technology, I am NOT the one. I will be the first to say I am technologically challenged. In fact, I will frequently describe myself as a dinosaur when I’m reaching out for help from others who are apparently gifted with the technological aptitude gift. I am grateful to them, along with all the other people God places in my life whose gifts help me in doing what I do. My light would not be able to shine optimally without their light adding to my light. Together, fueled by each other’s light, we can do great things and ‘glorify our Father’. John 8:54

In the chapter “Let Your Light Shine” Kelly makes what I feel is an astute observation of fact. He points out that the reason many of us aren’t letting our light shine is because we’re too busy comparing our gift with someone else. He states “comparisons are worthless in a world of individuals. You are the perfect mix of talents and abilities to fulfill the mission that God has in mind for you. There is no point worrying about what talents and abilities other people have. If you don’t have them, you don’t need them for your mission so get on out there and do good works. Let your light shine!” Matthew, I second that motion.

Now close your eyes and with humble gratitude and conviction sing:

“This little light of mine, I’m going to let it shine. Let it shine. Let it shine. Let it shine.”

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

"A Faithful Friend is a Sturdy Shelter" –Sirach 6:14

How often do we take time to thank God for the gift of a faithful friend? A faithful friend is a gift we should cherish. I was doing my prayers and meditation and the reading for the day was from Sirach 6:5-17 in the Catholic Bible. The focus of that reading was about friends vs. what I call “friendenemies” (those folks that appear to be friends, but aren’t). In fact, they are the worse kind of enemies, because they are close enough to you to suck the life right out of you. I can still hear the words of my mother ringing in my head, “Everybody is not your friend.” No truer words spoken, and how painful it is to live the reality of such betrayal.

Friendships are important and as parents we keep a watchful eye over the character traits of those people our children call their friends because we know the power of that bond to influence character and behavior. But do we teach them what a friend really is? There are more than enough friendenemies to go around, but a faithful friend is a gift. I always say that the Bible is like Prego spaghetti sauce and Sirach puts it this way:

“ A faithful friend is a sturdy shelter;

he who finds it finds a treasure.

A faithful friend is beyond price,

no sum can balance his worth.

A faithful friend is a life- saving remedy,

such as he who fears God finds;

for he who fears God behaves accordingly,

and his friend will be like himself.”

In essence, a faithful friend is dependable. They are with you through bad times as well as good. They are loyal; not just fair weather friends who are there when they feel like being there for you or there’s something in it for them. And they’re honest. They’re going to tell you what you need to hear instead of what you want to hear; and they will do it in love because they have your best interest at heart. That’s a faithful friend. Take the time to thank God for the gift of a faithful friend, and honor them by telling them how important they are in our lives.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail 

Stones of Rememberance

I often reflect on how the Jewish people would build an altar in the spot where God did something miraculous for them; like parting the Red Sea. The purpose was not just to worship and thank God, but also for them to always remember what He brought them through. We can often forget in times of crisis that the same God that brought us through the last crisis we were in is well able to bring us through this one; and the next one we’re sure to encounter if we keep living. It is good to have a stone of remembrance because it keeps us grounded and rooted in something greater than ourselves. It helps us remember we are not the be all and end all to all that happens in our lives. Our stones of remembrance allows us to have hope, and that hope will not disappoint.

In my prayer corner, I have my mother’s old glass jewelry box and in it I keep stones with little sticky labels on each stone with the specific trial I faced and the date God delivered me from it. I can open that jewelry box and pick up a stone and remember that June twentieth, two thousand six when my oldest son returned home from Iraq unharmed; December eighth, two thousand nine when my grandson began walking despite his health challenges; February fourth, two thousand fourteen after a conflictual relationship with the new building owner of the location where my business resided for 18 years, I was guided to the perfect new location for my business which is 8 minutes from my house and already built out just the way I needed it; and the stones go on. With every stone I pick up, I remember the situation, and all the circumstances, and I remember how God stepped in and worked it out.

When we’re facing those fiery trials I talked about in my last blog, pick up one of your stones from the past… and remember. God is the same yesterday, today, and forever; and He promise to work it out for your good and His glory.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

Happy Birthday, Easter People

Contrary to what the commercial world promotes, Easter is not about an egg, a bunny, or the new clothes we wear for spring. Easter is about opening ourselves to the sacrifice made by LOVE to be renewed on the inside.

God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son (John 3:16), then Jesus so loved us that He gave Himself for the opportunity to experience a love relationship that is unconditional and lasts forever. This love can be hard to comprehend because it’s pure and limitless. It’s a love that says, “I love you just because you’re mine.” “I love you with ‘all your perfect imperfections.’” “I know what you’ve done, what you’re capable of doing, what you will do, and I love you anyway.”

What kind of love is that? It’s a love that is sometimes difficult to accept and embrace, especially if you feel that no one has ever truly loved you. It’s hard to trust this love if you’ve been hurt by love because it means allowing yourself to be open, vulnerable, and trust that LOVE is who He says He is. It’s believing that He only wants you to allow Him to love you and you love Him back.

This Easter, we are invited to experience being bathed in a love that welcomes us as we are – to bring our hurts, shortcomings, anger, resentments, sadness, and brokenness and step in the pool of forgiveness made possible by the blood of LOVE. Let LOVE wash you and make you whole and re-born in an everlasting love that will set you FREE.

God's Love t-shirt coming soon to the shop. A wearable reminder of God’s love for you!

This Easter, experience God’s love all over again. As you do, I wish you HAPPY BIRTHDAY.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

“Do Not Be Afraid; Just Have Faith” – Mark 5:36

We have all felt fear, but do you allow it to hinder you from stepping into your blessing? This morning my devotion began with a focus on the woman with the issue of blood who had been afflicted with a bleeding condition for 12 years; no doctor, medicine man, or village healer could heal her. Her situation seemed bleak. Then the scripture took us to another scene involving a synagogue official whose daughter was dying and again, no one could help her. We are presented with two seemingly impossible situations in which I can be most certain that the people going through them were gripped with fear, fatigue, and a sense of hopelessness.

Who hasn’t been faced with a situation in which they felt afraid and didn’t know where to turn? I know I have been in this position many times. I always tell people that cancer taught me how to have faith, but owning a business taught me how to walk in it. When things don’t go as planned (and they often don’t), what do you do? I remember once saying to a fellow Christian business owner as we were commiserating over all it takes to keep a business going, “I don’t know how people who don’t know the Lord do it.” There are times when we are faced with situations and circumstances in which we can’t help but feel afraid because we’re human. God hotwired us with several emotions – fear being one of them; however, even though we feel fear, God does not give us a spirit of fear. I often remind myself of David in the Bible who said, “When I am afraid, I will trust in the Lord,” Psalm 56:3. He didn’t say if I am afraid, he said when. There are times we will feel afraid. Just remind yourself that God wired you with that feeling to alert you to when we need to fight or take flight; both call us to act. Will we fight, take flight, or allow apathy to immobilize us? Having done all we can do, why not take our mustard seed of faith and plant it in the One who specializes in making that which appears impossible possible. Jesus’ message to the synagogue leader was, “Do not be afraid; just have faith.” He commended the woman with the issue of blood for her courage to take faith and touch the hem of His garment.

Feeling afraid and overwhelmed? Look up, reach up, take courage, and let go. Just like Jesus told the woman, “Your faith saved you,” remember that when you think you can’t have faith…

God can.

Faith in the Furnace

It has been said that “Into each life, some rain must fall.” We all have had trials, tribulations, setbacks, feel set up, and at times wondered whether God has forgotten about us. Wouldn’t it be great if we could predict and prepare for life’s problems and pain which Jesus spoke of as persecution? In fact, He told us to expect them (John 16:33), but He didn’t tell us what they would be and when they would occur. We were only warned that in this life, we can expect them; but He also told us not to be discouraged when faced with trials because He overcame them; so will we.

I know when you’re in the fire it feels like you’re alone, and it seems like you’re alone; and fear can begin to make you wonder whether God is really there like He said He would be, because when you’re in the furnace you only feel fire; but hold on. God has a purpose for everything He allows and trust that everything that happens to us has been Father filtered.

Fire refines us. Being in the furnace provides an opportunity to take God at His word and stand on what we say we believe. It’s easy to believe when things are going well: the bills are paid, we have a warm, comfortable, safe, place to stay, we have food to eat, our life is going as planned, our children are well and not acting out, and “Life is Good”; but keep living. The ancestors warning, “Into each life, some rain must fall,” will eventually shower upon each of us. What will you do when it falls? Will your faith survive the furnace? Will you look up or give up? Will you take God at His word and choose to trust Him even though you can’t see beyond your situation and circumstance?

I frequently tell my clients that life is about the choices we make. When you find yourself heavy laden in the furnace of life, choose to do what we’re instructed to do in Ephesians 6:10-18. Put on God’s whole armor and STAND. Stand knowing that because God IS for you, He is working it out for your good and His glory (Romans 8:28). He still heals and His arms are not too short to save you. Just like Jesus told the man afflicted with leprosy (Luke 17:19); our faith will make us whole.

Peace and Blessings……..Gail

Miracles and the Power of Prayer

Trials come to each of us, but the question or test becomes what, or who, will you turn to?

My 14-year-old bouncing, bubbly, grandniece, Talia, who appeared fine when she came flying through my house on Saturday was found to be critically ill the next day. She had intermittently complained about pain in her side so her mother took her to the doctor who ordered some scans. The day after the scans were done, an urgent call came from the pediatrician instructing my niece to take Talia to Children’s Hospital as soon as possible. It was discovered that Talia was carrying around a tumor so large that it covered her kidney and was dangerously close to her aorta. In fact, it was so close to the aorta that the doctors were initially skeptical about operating for fear that she might ‘bleed out.’ Needless to say, this was a moment of crisis for everyone involved. My immediate response was horror – and then to collapse in tears while calling on God. Knowing that God is our ever present help in the time of need (Psalm 41:1), my spirit quickened within me and I announced to my nieces who had gathered at the house, “It’s time to pray.” The ancestors always said, “Prayer changes things,” and because I am no stranger to trials, I know that to be true in my life. Not only did I pray, I grabbed the two other nieces with me and we prayed. Then I emailed all 60 plus members of my choir and they prayed. A chain of prayers began that I’m sure stormed heaven’s gate for Talia.

The doctors were almost certain this was cancer, but the question remained, how do they get this tumor and spare her life? Talia’s blood pressure was so high that it became necessary to hospitalize her, which allowed them to do further testing. Every report seemed worse than the one before and we now learned that there was also a spot on her lung. This revelation led the doctors to schedule surgery the next day. In the Bible, Paul speaks about praying “without ceasing” (1Thessalonians 5:17); that Monday was dedicated to everything I did being a prayer for Talia. I wrote her name at the top of every page in my note pad as I listen to my clients who came to release the troubles weighing upon their heart; and my spirit man sang the song “There’s a miracle in this place with Talia’s name on it.”

Six hours after going into surgery, the doctors elatedly reported that they were able to get the entire tumor which weighed 5 lbs. Unfortunately, they were not able to save her kidney.  Shouts of praise and thanksgiving went up that she made it through the surgery and I rushed to the hospital to lay eyes on her and her mother. Talia was in the ICU and in pain, but that was to be expected. I held her hand and prayed with her and her mother before leaving the hospital. The next morning, 7:00 a.m., I was startled by a call from Tania, Talia’s mom. She thanked me for coming and all the prayers but she said, “Aunt Gail, I have something to tell you. It’s something Talia said to me when she woke up this morning.” With my heart now pounding with anticipation as I listened, she said that Talia told her that during the operation a man came to her and touched her hand and told her to ‘calm down; she was going to be ok and he would be with her.’ She told her mother that she calmed down and then she didn’t see him, but he came back later and told her she was going to be ok and for her to tell her grandmother that he loves her and happy birthday. Talia told her mother that she had never seen this man before but with the instructions he gave Talia, Tania knew exactly who it was. All the great grandchildren as well as the grandchildren refer to my mother-in-law as Grandma. That day was her 89th birthday. Tania took out her phone where she had a picture of her grandparents on their wedding day.  She showed the picture to Talia who immediately responded “That’s the man mommy. That who was with me during my surgery.” God never ceases to amaze me.

To all of you who are facing fiery trials, look up. Prayer does change things, and God is still in the miracle-working business.

P.S. Please keep Talia in your prayers. She still is facing the giant of cancer, but the same God that brought her through that, is well able to bring her through this.

Peace and Blessings…..Gail

A Valentine's Message: You Are Loved

Valentine’s Day can be a downer if you forget that you are loved by the greatest Lover in the world. In fact, you are loved by the source of love; and no one can do for you like He does for you. You are kept and cared for by an awesome Creator who loves you so passionately He died and rose for you. As I reflected upon that love, I decided I’d like to share with you a poem inspired by the Holy Spirit about God’s love.  It’s entitled “Can You Love Me Like God Loves Me?”

Can you love me like God loves me;

with a love that is as solid as

The Rock of Ages.

Can you love me like God loves me;

sweeter than magnolias

on a warm spring day.

Can you love me like God loves me;

with an everlasting love that reaches through time and space

and stands until time indefinite.

Can you love me as God loves me;

with a love that says, that you are me

and I am you.

No one can really love me as God loves me;

BUT…..

If you can love me like a rock that last through the ages,

as magnolias on a spring day,

and with a love as God created love to be;

then and only then

can love really be love.   

© Inspirational Things by Gail

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

Freedom Really Isn't Free

My husband and I took a road trip to visit the sites of the Civil Rights Movement in the South. As a child in the sixties, I remember being schooled by my parents on how to act when going to visit my relatives in South Carolina so that I could return home safely. Emmitt Till’s death was a reminder to all black parents that hatred and bigotry was irrespective of age; and not saying “yes sir” and “no sir,” or thinking you can shop where whites shopped, or eating where they ate, or drink from their fountains, or swim in their pools could cost you your life.

Although young, I remember the first March on Washington and looking up at my mom who was crying as Dr. King talked about his dream. Taking that road trip allowed me to step back in time and remember the sacrifices and struggles of a people who just wanted to be free to be, and do, what God created them to be and do; free to enjoy the simple pleasures of walking down any street at any time and not have to worry about being raped or lynched; free to pay your money to ride public transportation and sit wherever you wanted and not have to pay, get off the bus and walk to the back door to board, hoping the driver wouldn’t pull off before you got on; or free to live where you want and not worry that your home would be bombed or torched; or free to live in a country that judged you by “the content of your character and not the color of your skin.

Freedom has not been free. The freedom that we have has been paid for by the blood, sweat, tears, and lives of our ancestors; both black and some white. As we celebrate Black History Month, let’s not only remember the great leaders, legends, liberators, inventors, and trails blazers of our race who shared their genius with us and fought to help make this country great; but let’s also remember the countless other men and women of color whose names may never be in a book but stood up for the cause of freedom knowing it could cost them their lives. Let’s celebrate those who had their heads bashed open and bodies bloodied because they believed in every man being free the way God intended them to be. Let’s celebrate and emulate their courage to stand for what is right. They believed and had faith in a God of justice who would see their plight, hear their pleas, and deliver them.

It’s good to look back and remember a proud and determined people who are the bridge that “brought us thus far on our way.” Let’s commit to telling our children about that bridge; and our children’s children, and their children so that we too NEVER FORGET; freedom wasn’t and isn’t… free.

Peace and Blessings,

Gail

'Tis the Season

‘Tis the season to be jolly, but for many people, the holidays are anything but a time of cheer and good will. For those who are dealing with loss, the holidays can be a time of remembering what you don’t have and feeling the ‘holiday blues’ because they’re stuck in the pain of that loss. Whether that loss is as a result of the death of a loved one, the loss of a job, the end of a marriage, the breakup of a relationship, or like me and my husband, an empty nest; loss is a reality; but instead of putting a period there, let’s make it a semi-colon. What comes after a semi-colon shifts what preceded it. This holiday, let’s decide to shift our perspective and focus on what we have instead of what was lost. You will be surprised how an attitude of gratitude can shift your mood.

Philippians 4:8 gives us the perfect recipe for shifting our mood and focus. It tells us “Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, lovely and admirable; think about these things. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”

This year, instead of dreading the season, choose to welcome it with celebrating you and what you have. You may not have the person you lost; but you have lots of people who love you… if you let them. You may be currently unemployed; but you ate, have a roof over your head, and the promise that “You will reap a harvest in due season if you faint not” (Galatians 6:9). You may not have the person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with; but your life is not over, and since it’s not, I’m sure God has someone He’s chosen and is sending your way who is far better than the one you picked. Finally for those who live alone, your house may be empty; but your heart doesn’t have to be. Go out and share your light and love with others. That’s the real joy in Tis the Season.

Peace and Blessings;

Gail

Expect the Unexpected

I always say, “The God we serve is a God of 11:59 and counting”; but He shows Himself faithful even when we don’t know how it’s going to happen.  The ancestors would say, “God may not come when you want Him, but He’s always right on time.”  Have you ever been praying about something and wondering whether God is listening? Well you’re not alone. Let me share a recent experience that will re-awaken your belief that God is still in the miracle working business.

I am a breast cancer survivor; and Praise God, I am now 4 years post-treatment. The type of cancer that attacked both of my breast is a very invasive, aggressive form of breast cancer called HER 2 positive.  I went to my routine Oncology check- up and my doctor discovered another mass in my right breast. For about a month and a half I went through a series of tests which resulted in them concluding that they would have to have a surgical biopsy to remove the mass in order to determine if it’s cancer. This is because the mass was sitting on the implant. To do the surgery means that my plastic surgeon will have to be there to repair the implant. Both surgeons have a working relationship and everything was scheduled. Since my initial surgery my husband’s job changed insurance carriers but I didn’t worry because we have a PPO which allows me to go out of network. A week before the surgery, Cathy from my plastic surgeon’s office called to inform me that even though I have out of network coverage, there is a $5,000.00 deductible which must be paid before they will begin to pay the 80%.

With medical bills mounting, I just didn’t have it to pay. I attempted to appeal it the insurance company and submitted all the requested documentation in an effort to build a case for ‘network deficiency’, since I already had a working relationship with this doctor and he is familiar with my case.

Three days before my scheduled surgery, I was informed by the care manager with my insurance company that they denied my request. Trusting in God’s word that ‘He would work it out for my good and His glory’, I submitted myself to whatever God allowed. I notified both surgeons and was awaiting to hear from my breast surgeon regarding what our next step needed to be. I was eating lunch when my phone rang and it was Cathy from my plastic surgeon’s office.  She said Ms. Jackson, Dr. Brown wanted me to call you because he said he will do your surgery regardless of the insurance. THANK GOD. I nearly dropped the phone. Who but God can make possible what appears to be impossible?

I had my surgery as scheduled and the biopsy revealed no cancer.  

I hope my testimony will encourage someone who may be facing what appears to be an impossible situation to remember that the God we serve specializes in making possible what appears impossible. Expect the unexpected.

Peace and Blessings;

Gail

Faith's Plea

Lord,

Let me rise up, look up

And see the glory of You in everything.

Let me see You when it’s hard to see You.

Let me feel You when it seems that

It’s only pain and despair in my repertoire

Of emotions.

Let me hear You in the sweet whisper of Your peace

When my soul is troubled;

And let me rest in the joy of knowing,

You are with me,

And this too shall pass.

By: Gail Bethea-Jackson

My Dear Sisters and Brothers in Christ, I step out into this world of social media not sure who will see this or what will happen. I’m stepping out of my comfort zone to share what I feel is my purpose for being on the planet. For over 30 years, I have served the public as a mental health therapist; more specifically, a Christian mental health therapist specializing in the field of sexual victimization and trauma. I have been honored to partner with those who have been victims of this crime and assisted them in healing from their emotional wounds. I have worked with hundreds of children, teens, adults, and non-offending parents, usually mothers, of incest situations in an effort to be a bridge to getting them to the other side of their pain.

When a trauma happens, it leaves an emotional hole in your soul. This is also the case for non-offending parents. Many non-offending parents, who are secondary victims, find themselves in the position of feeling alone, lost, guilty, and caught up in a whirl wind not knowing who to trust, what to do, or how to wake up from this nightmare. Victimization can render victims and secondary victims feeling vulnerable, powerless, and stripped of the worth and value God created in them.

It is my calling to help those injured by this trauma get to the other side of it and re-discover, or in some cases discover, their worth, peace, and purpose so they too may live a life as God intended; fulfilled and able to love themselves and others in a healthy way, and accept love in return.

The purpose of this blog, and those to follow, is to inspire and give hope to those who are hurting. My hope is that something I share will ignite a spark of hope that tomorrow can be better; and stir up the belief that God can, and does, step into our brokenness and heals in a brand new way.  God does allow U-turns. This is not therapy, but it is therapeutic. It’s therapeutic to know you are not alone and there are others who understand and stand with you. It’s therapeutic to know things can change, and that change can begin with you. If this is you, journey with me as I share thoughts that will challenge us both towards change.

Peace and Blessings;

Gail

The Power of Choice

Have you ever stopped to consider the power of your choice? Aristotle stated “Choice, not chance determines human destiny.” I can’t think of a truer saying. We are the sum of the choices we make. How powerful is that? Yet, many of us relinquish that power to a feeling. I understand that feelings are a powerful motivator, but Jeremiah17:9 warns us about how foolish the heart can be. We can feel one way today and totally different tomorrow. We can foolishly relinquish our choice to what someone else thinks we should do. How many of us have abandoned our dreams for love; or find ourselves in situations or circumstances in which we ‘feel’ we have no choice. The truth is we always have a choice. It’s a God-given right to choose. He made us with the power of

 ‘free will’, but it can alter the course of our lives if we don’t choose wisely. The Bible tells us that “there is a way that seems right to a man, but it ends in death.” (Proverbs 16:25)

So how do we choose wisely? I often compare the Bible to an old commercial for Prego Spaghetti Sauce, which said, “Everything we need is in there.” Why not consult God? He gives you His Word and His promise that if you submit to Him, or “In all your ways acknowledge Him, He WILL direct your path.” (Proverbs 3:6) That’s a promise from someone who can’t lie. In fact, the Bible says it’s impossible for Him to lie. (Hebrews 6:18)

Why not take time to consult the one who knows you better than anyone else, loves you beyond what you can comprehend, always wants the best for you, and packaged you with a purpose and a plan for your success. For something as powerful as your choice, choose to look up and not out. Choose to submit your will to the way that leads to your success. God has a plan for you and

He never fails.

Peace and Blessings;

Gail